Identity of someone, that is really important to introduce ourselves to another people. I think identity is one of characteristics which human have as a social creatures. From identity we can know each other deeper.
For my identity everyone has known me as a Javanese person because of my name is really “Kejawa-jawaan”. My previous friends in my previous school call me with “jawir” because they know the background culture of my family is Java.
Am I Sumatrans or Jakartanese or Javanese??? At the present many of my friends think that I am a Sumatrans. They guess my identity because the volume of my voice when I speak something. They said I like Sumatrans person and they did not think that my family background is from Java. Javanese people are soft and elegant for the woman not like me who always speak loud and attractive. They think like that and that stereotype makes many people guess that I am Sumatrans or Jakartanese.
The second identity is many people think that I am a Chinese. Maybe for now my friends not really make it as a big problem. For me, it doesn’t matter if there is someone who wants to call me with “cici” and most of the new one of my friend for sure they called me with “cici”.
In my school now, my friends know me as one of the students who round way from my house at Cengkareng to campus every day by Transjakarta bus. It’s like new identity for me because my friends always describe my identity with “the girl who lives at Cengkareng and round way from her house to campus every day. Actually, Transjakarta bus also gives me many influences. Everybody has known me as busway girl and if there is my friend who wants to go to somewhere by Transjakarta bus, they usually ask me for the route.
I have many friends which is comes from different ethnic, culture background and religion. With my identity I just try to introduce myself to them as good as I can. I tried to adapting myself with their style. It can be the style when we are speaking something or when we eat or anything. Actually I did it not because I want them to like me but it is one of the ways I respect with their appearances. It doesn’t mean that I use a mask when I communicate with them. By that way I also can be myself, the difference only I have to control myself when I communicate with other people.

For example, I admit that if I speak my voice volume sometimes in out control. When I speak with my friends from Java, they will assume that I angry with them if I speak like that. So, I have to be slower and lower my volume to respect them. One day when I speak with Java person she asked me to decrease my volume, more calm and asked why I angry with her. I was surprise and confused at that time. When I asked to her what the reasons she spoke to me like that and my friend answered that she was afraid and assumed that I was angry with her. From that memory, I always try to speak or manage my attitude carefully when I speak with my friend who comes from different areas with me.
I tried to know first the background of culture from my friends. It doesn’t mean because I want to differentiate them but I want to adapt myself with them. I have experience, when I met with my friend which come from Sukabumi I thought that they are really soft and really stolid. In my opinion she was a boring and the accent of her language was strange. All of that was wrong after I know her deeper. She is attractive and kind girl. I hope with I know the background of my friend there won’t misunderstanding between me and them. Even though with my best friend who know deeper about me I try to adapt myself with them but in this context I can be free to speak with them.